Emotion Coaching

In my work I sometimes encounter people who have trouble identifying their emotions, have learned their emotions are bad or dangerous or signs of weakness. They may seldom have had their emotions validated or acknowledged by loved ones. Emotions are simply information from the body that “something is going on” that we should pay attention …

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The Brain’s Negativity Bias

From Rick Hanson’s “Hardwiring Happiness: the New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm and Confidence”: The brain is an organ that learns, so it is designed to be changed by your experiences.  Whatever we repeatedly sense and feel and want and think is slowly but surely sculpting neural structure.  As you read this, in the five …

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Radical Acceptance

It’s exhausting to fight reality, and it’s not an effective strategy for feeling better or moving forward.  “I can’t stand this”, “this isn’t fair”, “it shouldn’t be this way”, are thoughts that contribute to our suffering.  Pain is inevitable, but our thoughts can escalate our suffering, making things worse. Radical acceptance is about accepting life …

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